When baby arrives, it’s not about you anymore.
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Newborn Photographer Essex

Seriously, what a stupid statement to make. What a way to make a woman feel like nothing more than a baby vessel.

One you won’t find me saying. The woman is still the person you know, she simply has a new title now.

I remember when I had my first baby, I was told this and actually believed it. I mean, it didn’t help that ‘friends’ of mine actually decided to try and destroy me when my son was born. So I was at my lowest.

Before having my second baby, I was told, ‘When your baby arrives, there won’t be any time to do your makeup anymore.’ as I sat applying my morning face.

‘As if’ I told them. And I was right, because having a baby does not mean you are no longer visible.Of course when you have a child, they come first, but it doesn’t mean I don’t matter.

By the third baby, no one said this ridiculous statement. I think they knew better than to spout such nonsense.

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I do wonder who started this silliness. Because like many other things when it comes to pregnancy and a newborn, a lot of old wives tales are repeated over and over. From ‘wind’ causing a newborn to smile, to heartburn meaning your baby will have hair. Just because it’s repeated, it doesn’t make it true.

A woman feels hormonal and pants enough without then feeling like she’s just there to carry a child into this world.

I for one believe they matter even more than before. What they have done, what we have done is incredible. Grown a baby from 1 cell to the living, breathing, pooping little human in front of us. That’s epic, that is something else!
Because baby now comes first of course, that doesn’t take away from that woman standing in front of you.

Women are made to feel less than so much of the time, so why add to this and push her down further especially with the chance they could sadly suffer from Postpartum Depression when the little one is born. This is the time you should be bringing her up, telling her that without her amazing body, this new life wouldn’t be arriving into our world.

Mama’s we are super heroes and that doesn’t end when the new life begins.

For those who use this statement, the next time you feel like offering this thoughtless comment, don’t.

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